I did it!!!

I finally got caught up with my blog reading.  I was beginning to think it was never going to happen.  I know I didn’t do a whole lot of commenting but hopefully now that I’m caught up, I can go back to commenting too, lol.

In other news…guys, I got on the scale this morning and it WASN’T pretty…like at all.  As in, some of you are 8-9 months pregnant and weigh less than me and I’m only 5’1 (5′ 1 1/2 on a good day) so it’s not like I should be 167.5 or that I wear it well.

So, I need you Ladies to hold me accountable!  Feel free to email me (pdot95@gmail.com) at anytime and ask if I’m making positive/healthy changes and what they are!  This morning, I skipped coffee because coffee=sweets to me.  I had mint melody tea instead and had oatmeal and blueberries for breakfast.  Snack was baby carrots, no dip.  Lunch was not good because we have food to use up and I refuse to waste it.  I pulled tilapia out of the freezer for dinner.

I think sometime after Easter, my Sister and I are going to do Whole 30.  We’re going to have to find the time to prepare, shop and prep though and who knows when we’ll both be available to make that happen.  For those of you that have done it, I welcome any advice and favorite recipes.  This is going to be seriously hard for me because I do not like veggies!  However, I do need to claim my health back so I’m going to have to figure it out.

Hope all is well with you and know that even if I’m not commenting, you all are in my thoughts!

Lots of Love~Dawn

Technically, this is #4

J’s Grandma passed away unexpectedly this morning.  Apparently, it was a blood clot that went up to her heart.  This is the 4th loss he’s had to endure in the last 6-7 months.  He’s lost 2 friends in car accidents, then we lost the baby, and now his Grandma.

I am so very Thankful for our Faith right now because I really don’t know how either of us would get through all of this without it.  I’m praying that good news will start pouring in soon and we won’t have to deal with anymore death for a very long while.


Daycare Options from a Daycare Provider’s POV

After reading “A Random Daycare PSA” from The Almost Mom last night.  I felt a need to do my own post on daycare options and explain why, although I agree with her on many points, I don’t totally agree with what she said and feel that all you new and soon to be Moms could use even more information from someone that has worked in a group center, been licensed and has also been unlicensed.  Oh, and a nanny.

As you can guess, I’ve spent the better part of my life taking care of children (since I was 11, in fact).  The only jobs that I’ve had that haven’t dealt with children are being a grocery store clerk and a waitress in High School and College.  I went to a technical school after hs and got my certification in Childcare and then went to work in a big group center after I graduated.  From there, I was a nanny for 12 years in CT.  Came home to WI in 2008 and opened my un-licensed daycare.  I got licensed after somebody turned me into the state and stayed licensed until I moved to my new town and went back to unlicensed.

Pros to a Group Center

  • They are usually open from 6am-6pm and all major holidays.
  • If a teacher is sick, they are still open.
  • Children are separated by age.
  • Children move from teacher to teach as they get older.
  • Age appropriate curriculum.
  • Let’s face it, they usually have cooler toys and playground equipment than a home daycare can afford.
  • There are lots of different people coming and going throughout the center all day long.

Cons to a Group Center

  • They are more expensive.
  • They don’t have the flexibility that a home daycare has when it comes to a sick child.  Example:  If I know your child is in the middle of teething and has a fever, I’m not going to call you to pick them up unless they’re acting completely miserable and disrupting being with the other kids, a group center is going to call you to pick up at the slightest fever, cold, etc.  Teething or not.
  • Children are separated by age.
  • Children move from teacher to teacher.

As you can see, two of the things I have, are under both and that’s because I feel like it depends upon your perspective.  I love that I’ve gotten to have many of my daycare kids from birth (or close to it) until they went to Kindergarten.  If I would’ve stayed in my old town, I’d still have them for before and after school care.  I also think children in a home daycare with a variety of ages pick things up quicker than children that are just with their own age because they are watching older kids (this goes for both the good and the bad things, lol).

Pros to In Home Daycare

  • They are almost always cheaper than a group center.
  • In my opinion, you get more personalized care.  We really get to know your child.
  • In some areas, I think there’s more flexibility (i.e.. child being sick).
  • They are in a home setting which may feel more comfortable to them.
  • Smaller number of kids to get to know.  (I still get my old kids together for playdates and they LOVE being together again.  I have 3 of them that I call the 3 Musketeers.)
  • Usually, less germs to pick up, although right now I have all little ones that put everything in their mouths so it’s impossible to keep the germs at bay.

Cons to In Home Daycare

  • They usually have shorter/less flexibility with hours than a group center.
  • If the provider is sick or needs days off, they usually need to close.
  • There is usually no one else there during the day.  Just the provider and the children so you really need to trust your provider with your child.

As far as Licensed vs. Unlicensed Home Daycare.  Yes, Licensed homes are monitored, however, if it’s a daycare that hasn’t gotten in trouble before or hasn’t been reported for anything, the Licensor usually stops in 1, maybe 2 times per year because they are so busy with everything they have to do.  At that point, I then have to take time away from the kids unless they happen to show up at nap time to show that I have all paperwork up to date and they walk around the house to do a quick safety check.  It in no way makes me, personally, a better provider.

Face it, Ladies…in a perfect world, there would be plenty of wonderful licensed daycare out there.  Unfortunately, there’s not.  There is not even enough licensed daycares out there when it comes to infants and that doesn’t take into account your personal preferences.  None of the group centers in my town even take under 2’s.

It’s up to you to be your own licensor.  Call your local resources to find out what the average cost is for group/home daycares in your area.  If you go somewhere and the price is way lower, stay away.  Do your homework!  Ask the tough questions.  Do they have a policies/contract?  Do they have an open door police (if they don’t…stay away!)?  Do they have emergency plans in place?  What is their education?  What were they doing prior to starting a daycare?  What did they learn in their prior jobs that they think will help them effectively do daycare?  What kind of activities do they do with the children?  Do they have a play-based curriculum or are the kids doing worksheet type activities?  Ask to look around their home.  Do they have smoke alarms where the children play/sleep?  Carbon Monoxide detectors?  Fire Extinguisher?  Does each child have their own crib/cot/sleeping bag/blankets/pillows?  Who’s washing the bedding, you or the provider?  How much room do the children have to play?  What kind of area do they have outside to play in?  Is it fenced?  What kind of animals do they have and how are they with children?  Are the animal up to date on their vaccines?  Do they have references for you to call?  Will they be open to a background check (Yes, you can do these yourself!!!)?  Ask how they do tax receipts?  Will they get them weekly or at the end of the year?  I do the end of the year, but I wouldn’t be opposed if a parent wanted them weekly to keep track of themselves.  And then last, but not least…what are their fees?  I’m sure there are more questions to ask, these are just off the top of my head.

Just as you need to be your own advocate and listen to your own intuition when it comes to infertility, you need to do the same with who is going to provide care for your child.  Like I commented on her post, I honestly would not be going through licensing again if it wasn’t for adoption.  Also, make sure you check your own State/County laws.  In WI, you can watch 3 children un-related to you before getting either County Certified (you can’t have more kids but you an accept kids that get state aid) or State Licensed.  In WI, if you’re licensed for home daycare you can have up to 8 children, but only one of those can be under 2 before your numbers have to start going down.  Anyways, I hope this helps all you New Moms and Moms to be.

P.S.  I know I didn’t touch on getting a nanny as an option.  I figure, most of us are struggling to even come up with the money for treatments/adoption so getting a nanny probably isn’t a realistic option.  That being said, if that is an option for you and you want any advice on what things to ask when it comes to hiring a nanny and what to be prepared for, I’d be happy to help.  Just send me an email! 🙂



**Disclaimer:  These are just my own thoughts and opinions.  You need to do what works best for your family and what you are most comfortable with.  No matter what option you pick, there’s going to be good and bad facilities.

Day 31….Finally!

Ok…so, I’m seriously still getting caught up with everyone…how sad is that?  If it comes to my email…I’m caught up with you.  If it just shows up in my reader, I am so not.  It’s another one of those weeks where I have something every night.  Okay, onto finally finishing this challenge!

Day 31:  Put my iPod on shuffle.  What are the first 10 songs and what do they say about me?  Oh boy, lol.

1.  I’m a slave for you~Britney Spears.

Okay, so I went through a Britney phase when I lived in CT and it never went off my iPod.  I do still enjoy some of her songs though, lol.

2.  All the Earth~Parachute Band

Splendor and majesty, Lord!  A great worship song!!!

3.  Autobiography~Ashlee Simpson.

Can you tell I never clean out my iPod.  Once something is on there it stays forever!  Halle was a fan when I nannied for her and we took her and a friend to Ashlee’s concert in NYC.  I do like a few of her songs.  They’re fun with a good beat.

4.  Dream Walkin~Toby Keith

I am a huge Country fan and I love Toby.  We went and saw him when he came to play for the Veterans concert Ft. McCoy puts on each year.  Great concert and it was just a few months before my BIL was deployed so it was pretty touching for all of us.

5.  Let’s Try it Again~NKOTB

I will never be ashamed to have NKOTB on my iPod….always have and always will LOVE them!!!  If I’m in a particularly bad or sad mood…J puts on the NKOTB station on Pandora to cheer me up. 🙂

6.  Tomorrow Morning~Jack Johnson

Love me some Jack!  Got to see him in concert too and it was fantastic.  Would love to go again!

7.  Grease Lightnin’~ Grease Soundtrack

Love this movie!!!

8.  This, Kind Of, Goodbye~Echoing August

This is a band from CT that I knew.  I kind of sort of dated the bass player (he was totally hot, still is, lol).  He is now the bass player for Cassidy Pope if you know who that is (country singer).

9.  You Ain’t Much Fun~Toby Keith

Again.  🙂

10.  Blue Christmas~Blake Shelton

Country again and yes, I have Christmas songs on my iPod all year long but I usually skip over them if they come up after New Year’s and before Thanksgiving, lol.

And there you have it…my sometimes goofy taste in music!  Sorry it took me more like 90 days to complete that 31 day blogging challenge but it was fun to answer those questions.  Maybe I’ll find a different one to do towards the end of the year.  Hope all is well!

Lots of Love~Dawn

Dr. Purser

Hi Ladies!

I am so excited to be sharing this video with you today.  This is Dr. Purser who if some of  you remember, I went and saw speak in January in the middle of my miscarriage.  This looks like it is going to be the first video in a 4 part series and it’s on natural options to help with PMS, Endometriosis, and Migraines.  As many of you know, I’m huge on natural options.  🙂  If you have any questions or need/want more information, please contact me at 1lovemyoilylife@gmail.com (I’m trying to be more organized and keep the different aspects of my life in separate emails, lol.).  If I don’t know the answers, I can certainly find them out or even get Dr. Purser’s contact info if he doesn’t give it at the end of the video (I have not had time to watch yet, but will be at nap time!).  🙂


Dr. Dan Purser on PMS, Endometriosis, and Migraines

Lots of Love~Dawn

And I’m still way behind on my Reading!

It’s official…I need a week off right along with J, just to try and catch up on all my blog and magazine reading, lol.  I did get through about 4 or 5 magazines, but the internet was slow so I didn’t even try reading blogs.

We left for the hospital at 9am yesterday and didn’t get home til’ 6pm.  About 30-45 minutes of that was spent in actual surgery so it was a lot of waiting.  We got home and J’s parents were here.  We ordered some food from a nearby restaurant because it’d been about 24 hours since J had eaten at that point and he was starving.  By the time we ate, I could tell he was ready to sleep again.  Luckily, his parents left shortly after that and I was able to get his next pain pill in him and get him all set up.  We both fell asleep in the living room for awhile but did eventually move to the bed.  He had a rough night.  He was really thirsty and had a sore throat from the tube so he was drinking a lot and in turn, having to get up to go to the bathroom a lot.  He was also in quite a bit of pain.  He had another pain pill at midnight and then ibuprofen at 2am.  He settled down at that point and I was able to get about 4hrs of sleep before I had to get up for work.  I woke him up at 6am for another pain pill and he said he’d been up every hour til 4am but then finally fell into a more solid sleep.  It’s almost 10am now and he’s still in bed.  I doubt he’s slept well though with all the screaming and crying the daycare kids have done already this morning.  I cannot wait for them to get out of this whiny temper tantrum phase they are all in right now!!!

Thank you you for all the positive thoughts and prayers for J!  Please keep them coming for a swift and painless as possible recovery.

Lots of Love~Dawn

Too Busy!!!

Alright Guys…when I don’t even have time to keep up with your blogs…I’m officially too busy!  I am so way behind on following your stories and I apologize…I should be able to catch up on Tuesday though because I now have the day off and will be sitting in a hospital waiting room while J is in surgery.

Yep, his achilles is completely torn and after much hemming and hawing and going back and forth on his part…he finally realizes that surgery really is his best option to get back to basketball, running and his job as a PE teacher.  Unfortunately, he’s going to have to be off work for at least a week, possibly two.  This is the guy that very rarely (like he has over a year of sick leave built up) calls in sick.  In fact, the secretary at the school (who I absolutely love) didn’t give him  a choice on the week as he was hemming and hawing about that too.  She told him he’s out til the following Tuesday after his surgery and when he talked to his Principal, he agreed with A (the secretary).  They know how J can be and know that he needs this time to recover properly.  Thank goodness it happened now, because their Principal is retiring after this year and the next one might not be so understanding!

So, what else, besides playing nurse, have I been up to?

On Monday night, I went with a friend who is also in the adoption process (they’ve been waiting over 2 years with the agency we’re with 😦 ) to an adoption dinner.  It was about 6 ladies total and the other 4 have already adopted.  One from Ethiopia, one adopted her Grandson and the other 2 adopted through Foster care.  It was a fun night and interesting to hear their stories and experiences.  Tuesday night we had small group, Wednesday…I should have gone to Tomah to do a Family Promise booth but I had come down from a cold (I’d gotten sporadic on my ningxia and thieves…not making that mistake again) and was just exhausted so I just went to the store and the chiropractor and then came home and finally watched “The Bachelor” from Monday night.  Thursday night was our Family birthday party at my Mom’s.  My niece’s bday is 2 days before me and my nephew’s was on Thursday so we always do a joint family party at my Mom’s.  She made a delicious meal and we got some good family time in with them.  Always fun and always makes me happy!  Even my BIL was in a decent mood which is rare, lol.  Friday night, I had my first Thirty One party after re-signing.  I am very happy to say that not only did I make over $250 in commission to go towards adoption for 3 hours of work, but I also earned back the $99 I spent on the kit because of an incentive they are running through today.  You need to have $1000 in sales in your first 30 days and you get a rebate for your kit.  Yesterday, I planned on just being home and getting stuff done, but J wanted to go to our town’s hs basketball game in Eau Claire because they were one game from going to State.  Being that it was at the University and we had no idea how far away he would have to park, he couldn’t go by himself so I ended up taking him.  I dropped him off and had to park about 6 blocks away so it’s a good thing I went with.  Then we had to get right back because I had to help with a fundraiser in Tomah last night.  In my rush to get home, I ended up getting stopped for speeding (oops) but luckily, got off with a warning.  Got home, ended up not having to be at the fundraiser as soon as I thought so I took Rocky for a quick walk before I left.

Today, I should be going to my nephew’s 1st communion party but it’s all the way in Madison (about 2 hrs or so away) and I have class tonight at 5pm and have gotten nothing done around this house!  Plus, I had to finish getting that party entered in the computer.  That’s done, the checkbook is caught up and I have finally written a blog post for this week.  Now to finish some computer work, clean this house, J wants to talk budget (ugh…those never go well) and I need to do my homework for class tonight.  Good thing it’s a little overcast outside so it’s not making me want to be out there enjoying the warmth and sunshine we’ve had the past week!  I hope all is well with you all and know that even though I haven’t gotten caught up with you and do think of you all pretty much daily!

Lots of Love~Dawn

Day 30

Okay, so I posted Day 29 forever ago…but I really need to get this challenge finished!

3 online friends I have yet to meet.  I haven’t met any of my online friends yet and there are so many that I want to meet.  I can’t just pick 3 because just off the top of my head, there’s like 6.  And that’s just off the top of my head.

I would love to meet Sara at Meant To Be Mommy.  This Girl has the best timing on sending me snail mail.  It always shows up exactly when I need it!  Lucky for me, the plan is to take a West Coast road trip this summer and I will hopefully be meeting up with her while we’re in CA.  If you do not follow her blog yet…go right now and follow her…I’ll wait! 🙂

I would also love to meet MPB at My Perfect Breakdown.  She and I are both going through the adoption process right now.  She has been one of my rocks throughout this whole infertility ordeal and especially during my 1st and hopefully only miscarriage.  Again, if you aren’t following her yet, go right now and do so.  You will not regret it…I promise!

Elisha at Waiting For Baby Bird is also a must meet someday for me.  This Girl gives me major encouragement in my Faith and I’m so thankful God placed her in my life.  Her snail mail also arrives at all the just right moments.  🙂  If you haven’t guessed what I’m going to say by now…here it is:  Yep…go follow her if you don’t already!

Caroline at In Due Time is another huge Faith inspiration to me.  We also bond over our love of Young Living essential oils!  Would love to meet up with her.  Go on…follow her! 🙂

A Calm Persistence is another friend I would love to meet.  I love her blog and she has been someone else that really reached out to me during my miscarriage.

One last one just for this list, because seriously, I’d love to meet everyone I follow!  But this Girl’s blog frequently makes me laugh out loud and I can totally relate to her when it comes to in-laws.  Thank you The Barren Librarian for frequently making me laugh through this mess we call infertility!