The first afternoon I was in New Orleans, I received a call. We were at Cafe Du Monde getting beignets, so I let it go to voicemail. As we waited for our server to show up, I listened to the voicemail and it was our social worker. It turns out that she took a new position supervising the Infant Domestic program at our agency and would no longer be our social worker. I was upset, to say the least and knew that J would be upset too. Although we haven’t had a ton of interaction with her yet, we liked her right away when we first met with her and she was the social worker on our friend’s 3 adoptions so we knew she was kind and good at her job. We also found out that our classes are now being postponed til August when they have a new social worker hired.
I was right, J wasn’t happy and began re-thinking our plan to go with this agency…again. I called Laura on Monday to speak with her about it and by the end of the conversation, I was totally reassured that we should stay where we’re at right now. She reassured us that we can move forward and be in the book before we take August’s classes. We just have to watch modules online and let her know that we watched them. Our plan is still to have our paperwork done by the time we would’ve had our classes in June and as soon as the new social worker is hired (she’s thinking about a month), we will sit down (the 4 of us and have a meeting about where we’re at). We will also get our portfolio book at that time to make our scrapbook for birth parents. I’m hoping by the time we actually take the classes in August, we’ll already be in the book.
I do have concerns about the home study because of something that happened between J and his ex-girlfriend when we first start dating that resulted in him being arrested. He had to do an aversion agreement and go through an alcohol assessment and go to a group about learning to communicate effectively. The worst part is, she was totally lying but before J’s Sister could print out the evidence off FB, she blocked her. J’s lawyer said they could fight it but he would call her children to the stand and J wasn’t willing to put the girls through that. I am really hoping in doesn’t hinder us in anyway because J would be devastated if it does.
Anyways, I’m hoping to get through a lot of the paperwork this weekend and I’m really hoping this stupid cold I caught goes away! It’s my own fault for not remembering that I should have brought Inner Defense with me on the trip until I was on the first airplane. Being on airplanes and a weekend with not much sleep…I knew I wouldn’t get through that without getting sick and I was, unfortunately, right.
Hope all is well with you all!