I’m not going to give her the satisfaction of actually approving her comment, but I’ll copy and paste it for you.
“I found your blog from a comment you made on another blog I read. OMG! I have a Bachelor’s degree in Early Childhood Education and have been a preschool director for the past 12 years. CIO neglects the child’s needs and sense of secure attachment. It’s no surprise that you are struggling to keep your little home daycare occupied. Get a clue Dawn. Just because you don’t want to attend to a crying child’s needs does not mean the child should just suck it up and stop crying. Yes, they do stop crying eventually. But that doesn’t mean that CIO works. NOBODY can continue crying forever!!! The saying that some people really shouldn’t have kids is true fatty boom batty. Oh and fibromyalga is a mental disorder for people seeking attention and pain pills.”
First of all, CIO does not neglect a child’s needs, obviously, CIO Method (which by the way is actually called the Ferber method, not CIO) is used when you know the baby has been fed, changed and is tired. You also don’t just leave the baby crying by itself for however long it takes for them to put themselves to sleep. You go in every 10-15 minutes to let them know that you are still there, they are learning to sooth themselves to sleep. Being able to sooth themselves is a skill that can be used in a variety of situations thought their lives. It is also used to get a child on a schedule which is just not a bad thing no matter how you look at. If you don’t want to do it that way, it’s fine, by all means, do it however you want, like I said, it’s my opinion and I don’t judge other people on how they want to do it with their child at home. Second, she’s been a preschool director for 12 years. That means, the children in her care are 3-5 years old. A Bachelor’s degree in Early childhood doesn’t get you hands on experience with infants. I have been taking care of children for 27 years. Including, several babies on top of 9 nieces and nephews. When a baby is old enough to be on a schedule, this works and I’ve never had a parent have a problem with it. In fact, several of my parents have also used the Ferber method. She also, I’m guessing, has no clue what it’s like to own a in-home daycare. I don’t have co-teachers or assistants. I do it all myself. It has nothing to do with not wanting to meet the children’s needs. The children in my care are happy, playing and laughing all day long. My parents pick up happy children in the afternoon and their kiddos are happy to come to me in the mornings when they get dropped off. They talk about me while they are at home and even choose to pray for me at bedtime. Having trouble finding daycare children has nothing to do with my care and everything do with the fact that I can’t take on several babies which is what the biggest need is in my area. I don’t even know what the “fatty boom batty” is supposed to mean. And the fibromyalgia comment is just pure ignorance on her part and wouldn’t see be surprised to hear that I don’t pop pills for it. I have never once taken a pill for fibromyalgia and anyone that has thoroughly read my blog knows that I hate taking pharmaceuticals unless absolutely necessary (like to have a baby).
So Ladies, I hope no one else was offended my post yesterday. The funny thing is when I started thinking about writing that post, I was really just wondering, am I going to have those fist time nerves and that anxiety that so many first time Mom’s have? Will those come into play because it’s finally my child or will my experience stop that from happening?
Hope you all have a Happy Friday and nobody else gets trolled today! 🙂
Lots of Love~Dawn