January 2nd and 3rd

So of course I immediately miss a day, lol. I have a great excuse though, J and I had our first date night in a very long while. The kids went and stayed with my Mom for the first time in a long time. She’s 66 and has smoked most of her life so we’ve been very careful with Covid and her. Especially when the numbers started soaring in WI this Fall. It’s still of course always a risk but I’m praying everything will be good because it did both her and the girls good to spend time with each other.

So, what did we do on this date, we went to an amazing restaurant that practices low capacity and all staff wears masks. I’d been there one other time but J had never been there. It’s on the pricey side so it’s definitely more of a go when we have something to celebrate type of place. We had yet to celebrate our 8th Anniversary back in November so that was our excuse. We were supposed to go on NYE before I started this whole low carb thing, but that ended up not working out so my eating was not perfect yesterday.

The kids actually slept until 8am (Yay!). We all got up and got the kids fed and dressed. I got all their bags packed up and we headed to my Mom’s about 30 minutes away. I ate a banana on the way because I was hungry and it was quick. I figured people don’t usually get fat on bananas so it’d do. Once we got back home from my Mom’s, I got started on the cleaning/organizing. I started with Roo’s room and got all the 6 month clothes pulled out and put into boxes to take to our sitter who just had a baby boy. Got all his 9-12 month stuff put away and his toys organized. While I was doing that, J brought in all the toys that had gotten taken out to the garage after I told Bella, clean your room or I’m taking all your toys except your books. She said go ahead so out they went. Infuriating, but what can you do? I knew I needed some kind of system that wouldn’t let her have everything out at once. My kids really enjoy dumping buckets…someone please tell me they’ll eventually get out of this stage. Anyways, I made some lunch (eggs and bacon) and then off to Walmart I went to buy bins that I could sort the toys into and put on her closet shelf. She can have up to 2 buckets out at time and if she wants another one, she has to clean up what she has out first. By the time I got back, it was almost time to get ready for dinner so I didn’t get much else done.

Dinner was just what we needed. We’re really working on communicating more but with 3 kids 4 and under, one who is in a particularly difficult phase (at least I hope it’s just a phase) and a very needy black lab who barks at us constantly if we try to talk or stand/sit near each other, it’s difficult to do most of the time. We talked all through dinner, laughed, and indulged in crab cake poppers with dijon aioli, filet mignon (topped with asparagus, hollandaise sauce and lump crab meat), yukon gold garlic potatoes, and broccoli. Our waitress had asked if we were celebrating anything and we told her it was a late anniversary celebration so she bought us dessert too. It was the fanciest looking, most delicious salted caramel cheesecake. Sooo good and totally worth not doing perfect on food yesterday. We masked up and went and played a couple games of pool because J very nicely got rid of his pool table so we’d have more room for daycare in the basement.

Today we slept til’ 9:30am and then got up and started working on the girls rooms right away. It took me until 2pm to get them done and then we had to head out to get the kids from Mom’s before the Packer game started. When we got home, the girls LOVED their rooms. They played fairly well together all evening and I made chicken enchilada bowls for dinner and put it over cauliflower rice. The girls were not impressed. Bella tried 2 tiny bites but Milah refused and just ate her berries. J and I both enjoyed it. At bedtime, we tried a new routine that I think worked well. We each took one of the girls and helped them get their toys cleaned up, changed into PJ’s and brushed teeth and them read them books. Each night we’ll switch so we get a little one on one time with them. I spent the rest of the night cleaning the daycare room, living room and kitchen to get ready for daycare to reopen tomorrow.

Anyways, I am off to bed. It’s almost midnight here and 5:45am will come quickly.

Lots of Love~Dawn

2021

I think most of us were probably ready to see 2020 end. There were some great things that happened despite the craptastic year that it was.

1. Ummm, I got an extra 3 months off with my kids. Yes, it sucked moneywise and the only thing that got us through until unemployment (which under normal circumstances, I wouldn’t have qualified for), was the insurance money that J got when his Dad unfortunately passed away about a month before safer at home orders in WI. Other than that, it was absolutely glorious. I’m clearly meant to be a SAHM. Too bad our budget requires me to work.

2. Roo Bear was placed with us. In fact, I’m pretty sure that’s the last time I blogged. He turned 8 months on Christmas Day. The girls adore him. It’s looking like it could go to adoption. We’re praying it does because I don’t even want to know the trauma it would cause to all of us but especially the girls if we had to say goodbye to him.

3. Virtual learning meant that our babysitter is was able to come on as my daycare assistant this year. it’s been fantastic having a helper. Also, her Mom is Bella’s 3k teacher and she has quickly become one of my best friends. We are so alike it’s a little crazy.

The worst part of 2020 was definitely not being able to see my Mom much at all. She was very involved in my kids life so it was hard on all of us for the kids not be able to go stay there once a month or so like they’d been doing most of their lives. They are going over tomorrow to spend the night since we haven’t been by anyone since the 24th. Everyone is excited. Especially this Mama!

No one outside of my family and a few close friends know this but J and I almost split up in April. I had moved the girls and I to our rental house because it was empty. On the 3rd day, I was driving back there after picking them up from our house (they’d spent the night with J) and out of nowhere, I prayed that we wouldn’t get a call for a placement. I don’t know why I did that because we hadn’t gotten a call in over a year, but I did. When we got back to the rental about 30 minutes later, I had an email from the foster coordinator asking us if we would take Roo. It was such a God thing that I called J, we did a lot of discussing ing in a short amount of time and we decided to say yes. We haven’t looked back since. We still had a lot of hard times throughout the summer but things have seemed to start really getting back on track the last month or two.

So now here we are. 2020 is finally over. We’re 19 days away from the greatest day since Obama left office and I’m 50 lbs heavier than I was on my wedding day and 64 lbs away from my goal weight. Therefore, you my lively readers are going to be stuck being my accountability partners. The plan is to blog every night and post pics of what I ate to hold myself accountable. Hopefully I will have the energy to do this each night. I’m doing low carb because I’m hoping this will really help with the ridiculous amount of inflammation I have in my body. Currently, my hands are pretty much constantly numb and in pain and my right thumb doesn’t bend. If it does get forced into a bent position, it is excruciatingly painful. So here we go…

Day 1:

Breakfast was 2 eggs scrambled with broccoli, onions and a little cheese sprinkled in and about 2.5 pieces of bacon by the time I got done sharing with the girls.

Lunch was rotisserie chicken with a little cheese sprinkled in with diced avocado and a little basil pesto mixed in. I came up with it off the cuff and it was really good.

Dinner was chili, no beans with cheese and sour cream on top. Normally I’d put crackers in there too but skipped them. I did forget to take a picture though.

I managed to stay away from snacks and stick to coffee and water for drinks. I feel hungry but that’s not surprising with the amount of crap I’ve put in my body daily. I’m guessing I’ll feel hungry for the first week or so.

I hope you are all doing well! I promise I won’t just post about food but will update you on the kiddos also. For now though, Happy New Year, my Friends! I look forward to being more active on here again and hopefully getting back in touch with many of you from my pre kiddo days when I had this thing called time. 😂

Lots of Love~Dawn